A Guide to Caring for an Elderly Mother

Aging is an inevitable part of life. If we all fortunately get there, we hope that someone will take good care of us. This time of life is associated with various challenges, considering one becomes independent in many areas. Emotional stability can take a huge toll on older adults and their families.

As a child, it would be such a blessing to partake in caring for your elderly mother following this guide.

Make Her Aware

Many people have reported resentment from elderly parents when they showed the desire to start caring for them. Sometimes, this could be due to the general denial that you’ve grown older and cannot perform many duties independently like you used to.

Elderly persons with underlying health issues, especially those related to mental wellness, may often reject care. Take a step to engage your mother, explaining the importance of care broadly and patiently. Be keen on her response and evaluate if you need an expert’s intervention.

Make Living Arrangements

Living arrangements for older people differ from one person to another, depending on factors like family background, needs, age, and boundaries. If preferred, your mother may live in her usual house, provided all the care requirements are met there. Other families take in their elderly parents to live with them as they age to tighten the bond and closer care.

The two options are incredible, but you can also register for membership in a senior community for your elderly mom. Assisted living communities provide care, treatment, transportation, and social wellness. Retirement homes have nursing care plans ideal for elderly people with underlying health conditions, short—or long-term.

Understand Her Needs

The only uniform factor that unites elderly persons is their age, while everything else is unique. When striving to care for an elderly mother, you should understand her specific concerns. Perform a thorough examination and consultation to learn what requirements should be incorporated into your mother’s life.

You can look into social life, exercise needs, meal preparations, personal care, mobility concerns, cognitive health, medical needs, and general safety. That way, you will be better positioned to tailor your care to the best level.

Get a Plan

From your findings in step 2, you can now draft a more informed plan. The plan should focus on the most compassionate way of doing things. Set the expectations you’d love to achieve by the end of a particular period.
On the next page, outline how you wish to accomplish your goals. This plan should help you when unfamiliar with many essentials, especially in the first stages of care.

Evaluate Your Finances

It’s no lie that care requires significant financial strength to cater to inevitable needs such as medication. If you want to get involved with looking after your elderly parent, it’s best to evaluate how much you can provide financially.

Examine the needs and consider other factors to determine if you may require support from various sources. The Canadian government offers some support (in terms of money and supplies) to elderly citizens, and you can apply for that. You can also look into health insurance options for the elderly.

Split Responsibilities

You can agree that caring for the elderly is no child’s job, and if you settle for doing everything independently, you can get overwhelmed. There’s nothing to be embarrassed of when seeking help to care for your elderly mother, even if it’s from other family members.

Conduct a meeting and discuss a successful division of responsibilities. These include financial assistance, regular visits, cleaning duties, drives, and every other role. That way, everyone will be more dedicated to doing their part, unlike if a single person undertook everything.

Facilitate Safety and Communication

Regardless of the living arrangement plan you’ve considered, it’s important to enhance the level of safety for your elderly mother. However, communities and retirement homes are tasked with ensuring the members are secure from various risks. When you opt for the other two options, that is when you must facilitate further security and stability.

Some ways of doing so include:

  • Ensuring easy communication by providing a cellphone and making it easily accessible.
  • Install an audible alarm system and make them within reach.
  • The medication should be easy to find, accompanied by an advance refill.
  • Minimize the risk of fall accidents by senior-proofing the retirement home. It’s best to have a professional caregiver look after your mother when you or other family members aren’t available.

Looking after an elderly mother is a task filled with love and compassion. Adhering to the above guide can make this experience more enjoyable. Your dedication will profoundly affect her life, improving her wellness in her golden years.

Kelly Young is a writer born and raised in Toronto. Proud of her simple and cozy life, a perfect evening for Kelly would be to snuggle up in bed with her cat and a well-written historic memoir.