Now that you’ve figured out that one of the worst things has happened to you – your husband has cheated on you – it’s time to make some tough decisions. Do you stay with him for the sake of your marriage and kids? Or do you go your separate ways?
You might have decided to end things with your cheating husband and get a divorce. This process often involves contacting family lawyers and going through a lengthy legal process. Afterwards, moving on with your life can feel extremely challenging. You must take steps to move on, and not let your husband’s affair hold you back for too long.
The journey after divorce won’t be easy, but you can do it. Below, you will find six ways on how to get over a cheating husband:
1. Don’t Blame Yourself
When it comes on how to get over a cheating husband, you should always remember to not blame yourself. Finding out you’ve been cheated on is a severe blow to your self-esteem. It’s easy to get caught up in the “What Ifs”. What if I was home more? What if I did more things to make my husband happy? These are all normal thoughts to have after you find out your husband has been cheating on you. But remember cheating is never the fault of the faithful partner.
When someone cheats it’s a deliberate action someone has taken rather than dealing with whatever was bothering them in the first place. Your husband owed it to you to communicate any dissatisfaction in the relationship, or with themselves. It may be hard to do, but don’t hold yourself accountable to his mistake.
2. Avoid Your Old Stomping Ground
You know where your husband is likely to be hanging out. Do yourself a favour and stay far away from those places (at least for a few months). You’re already hurting enough. The last thing you need is the run into your ex in public to get those negative feelings brewing. Use this time to check out some new places you wanted to try. The best part is that you won’t have memories with your ex at these new locations.
3. Have a Girls’ Night Out
Nothing will get your mind over a cheating husband and subsequent divorce like having a night out on the town with your closest girlfriends. Like previously mentioned, don’t go somewhere where you’ll be sure to run into your ex. You want to use this night to help get over him, not bring him back into your life.
Go get your nails done, go for a nice dinner and maybe dessert, and try out a new bar or nightclub. You can even make a rule that none of the girls talk about the men in their lives, and that no one talks about your ex! Then just focus on the moment and dance the night away!
4. Take Up a New Hobby
Now that you’re newly single, you’ll have a lot more free time. It’s best to use this time doing something to take your mind off things, rather than sitting around the house thinking about what happened to you over and over again. Is there a hobby you always wanted to try but never had the chance to? Now is the time! Some ideas include taking up a pottery class, stained glass making class, plant care class, or an arts and crafts class at your local arts and crafts store. There are so many options to chose from.
Exercise is good for your body and mind. Exercise is good for your mind since it helps reduce anxiety, depression, negative moods, and improves sleep – all the things you’re likely struggling with since breaking up with your cheating husband. There are so many ways to exercise that you’re sure to find something that you enjoy.
If you like working out from home with no equipment, try downloading a free exercise app and following it, enroll in a yoga class, try rock climbing, or get a gym membership that also allows you to take different classes at the gym. Exercise doesn’t need to be a drag and will provide you with many benefits during this difficult time.
6. Get a Dog
If you’ve always wanted a dog and now have the time needed to devote to it, go ahead and get one. Having a dog has been proven to reduce stress and increase happiness. Owning a dog is good for your mental health since it’s proven that it raises levels of serotonin and dopamine in the brain. You’ll also have a companion nearby for when you’re feeling bad or sad. It’s also a great way to get out of the house and go for walks or socialize with other pet parents at the dog park.
Finding out you’ve been cheated on is an enormous blow and something no one deserves to go through. If you decide to leave your spouse, these six ways to get over a cheating husband will help keep you occupied during this difficult time.